Dear Prudence: Type "R" for Revenge

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dear prudence Type "R" for Revenge Dear Prudence advises a woman who got her cheating ex fired by sending a nasty email--in a live chat at Washingtonpost.com. By Emily Yoffe Posted Monday, Aug. 29, 2011, at 3:07 PM ET Emily Yoffe: So, while I was on vacation, I missed an earthquake and a hurricane. Please tell me I won't be here for pestilence. Q. Confessing to an Ex-Boyfriend: About two years ago my then-boyfriend got a job offer at a large, global company for nearly a 40 percent pay raise. He was contractually obliged to give a month's notice at his old job and during that time I found out he cheated on me, amongst other things. To get back at him I logged into his email (he gave me his password previously) and wrote an email pretending to be him. The email detailed a drunken weekend out using recreational drugs, racist vents about my ex's then boss, and the last paragraph contained offensive remarks about the HR manager who recruited him. I sent it to the HR manager to make it look like he'd accidentally sent it to her instead of a friend, then deleted the email from his sent account. Naturally the company withdrew the job offer with the excuse that his position was no longer available. My ex was also not permitted to have his old job back, so he spent four months unemployed. To be honest, I feel no guilt over this event considering how much he lied to me, but something keeps nagging at me and I feel like I have to confess it to him. He probably has no idea what happened. Am I morally obliged to tell him, or should I keep it under wraps? To continue reading, click here. Emily Yoffe is the author of What the Dog Did: Tales From a Formerly Reluctant Dog Owner. You can send your Dear Prudence questions for publication to prudence@slate.com. (Questions may be edited.) Join the Fray: our reader discussion forum What did you think of this article? POST A MESSAGE | READ MESSAGES Also In Slate In the Aftermath of Irene, Brooklyn Out-Brooklyns Itself Why Colombia's President Is Making Nice With Hugo Chavez A Hotel That Offers an Insomniac's Package	Advertisement
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