Dear Prudence: He'd Like a Virgin

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dear prudence He'd Like a Virgin Dear Prudence advises a woman who lied to her fiance about her sexual past--during a live chat at Washingtonpost.com. By Emily Yoffe Posted Monday, Sept. 19, 2011, at 3:08 PM ET Emily Yoffe: Good afternoon. Let's get to it. Q. Virginity: This December I am marrying a wonderful man who is from a different culture. He comes from a conservative background where young people are expected to stay virgins until their marriage. He also has this view on sex and has remained a virgin as well. Whenever we discussed sex, he said it was very difficult growing up in America and staying a virgin, but he has, because he sees sex as a special thing he wants to reserve only for his wife. The only thing is, this won't be my first time. I've had two partners previously, both in a serious relationship. I never explicitly said I wasn't a virgin but led him to believe I was. I asked him hypothetically one day (before we started dating) how would he feel if his future wife had sex before meeting him. He said that this would be a deal breaker for him. In my mind it's not a big deal having partners before marriage, but it clearly is for him. Do I say anything at this point? To continue reading, click here. Emily Yoffe is the author of What the Dog Did: Tales From a Formerly Reluctant Dog Owner. You can send your Dear Prudence questions for publication to prudence@slate.com. (Questions may be edited.) Join the Fray: our reader discussion forum What did you think of this article? POST A MESSAGE | READ MESSAGES Also In Slate Michael Vick's Head Injury Is the NFL's Worst Nightmare Netflix To Split Into Two Companies How Does a Rogue Trader Lose So Much Money Without Anyone Noticing?	Advertisement
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