Dear Prudence: Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places

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Dear Prudence Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places My wife doesn't want sex frequently, so I visit prostitutes. Should I stop? By Emily Yoffe Posted Thursday, Oct 06, 2011, at 02:05 PM ET Get Dear Prudence delivered to your inbox each week; click here to sign up. Please send your questions for publication to prudence@slate.com. (Questions may be edited.) Got a burning question for Prudie? She'll be online at Washingtonpost.com to chat with readers each Monday at 1 p.m.  Submit your questions and comments here before or during the live discussion. Dear Prudie, I consider myself a decent man, but for the past year I have been cheating on my wife about twice a month with prostitutes. We've been married for more than a decade and have three young children. Since the beginning of our relationship, my libido has exceeded hers and she frequently refused my overtures. Now we have sex about once a month, only when initiated by her, because I became so resentful about being rebuffed constantly. It's mutually satisfying (she has an orgasm and is not the type to fake it) but bland. Over the years, to increase the likelihood that my wife would be in the mood, I cooked, did chores, and helped as much as possible with child care. She would frequently say she was too tired for sex, although she would not be too tired to stay up late reading or watching TV. We get along reasonably well, and our children are our chief priority, but we are emotionally disconnected. Out of despair and frustration, I saw an escort last year. The thrill of seeing prostitutes and the variation from ... To continue reading, click here. Join the Fray: our reader discussion forum What did you think of this article? POST A MESSAGE | READ MESSAGES Also In Slate Left Behind Where Should I Start with Tömas Transtromer? Steve Jobs Baby-Sat My Kids	Advertisement
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