This article is meant to identify and define different aspects of relationships which cause a couple to break up. By learning from our mistakes and the mistakes of others, we can avoid certain hardships in a relationship and learn to work through the rest.
The most frequently noted problems in marriages that end with divorce include communication difficulties, different expectations, and foolish spending behavior. Divorce is usually the result of a long term deterioration brought on by problems which often go back to the beginning of the relationship. It is logical to assume that by learning why married couples divorce we can understand how better to avoid a negative relationship, and how to foster a healthy one.
Fighting about how to spend money is common at all income levels, and can be a real threat to the relationship. Being financially well off does not insure marital satisfaction. The best way to avoid quarrels over money is to plan how the money will be spent as a couple. For some this may mean breaking away from traditional views. For instance, traditionally the male partner would make all of the income and decide how it was spent. This could leave the female partner feeling like she has no voice in the couple’s finances.
Disagreeing role expectations can damage a relationship. If one partner has expectations of a traditional marriage and the other does not, problems can quickly come into light. In order to avoid this conflict, a potential couple should talk about role expectations. If there is a discrepancy which goes undetected into marriage, the couple may be risking divorce. Role expectations can be difficult to change whether they are traditional or not.
Communication and the lack there of is one of the most widely recognized problem areas in couples. Good communication is vital to the success of a relationship. Some of the more common communication pitfalls include contempt, criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling, and belligerence. Research indicates that couples that are unhappy in their relationship often find it difficult to convey positive messages. They may misunderstand each other more without realizing it, and there may be an inconsistency in how open they are with each other within the relationship.
In conclusion it would seem that the key to a healthy relationship is first having similar values, and then maintaining communication. Couples who have been married and divorced report feeling unheard and therefore unhappy in the marriage. Although some problems will always show up in a relationship, many are fundamental and can be avoided by good communication from the beginning.
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Fighting about how to spend money is common at all income levels, and can be a real threat to the relationship. Being financially well off does not insure marital satisfaction. The best way to avoid quarrels over money is to plan how the money will be spent as a couple. For some this may mean breaking away from traditional views. For instance, traditionally the male partner would make all of the income and decide how it was spent. This could leave the female partner feeling like she has no voice in the couple’s finances.
Disagreeing role expectations can damage a relationship. If one partner has expectations of a traditional marriage and the other does not, problems can quickly come into light. In order to avoid this conflict, a potential couple should talk about role expectations. If there is a discrepancy which goes undetected into marriage, the couple may be risking divorce. Role expectations can be difficult to change whether they are traditional or not.
Communication and the lack there of is one of the most widely recognized problem areas in couples. Good communication is vital to the success of a relationship. Some of the more common communication pitfalls include contempt, criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling, and belligerence. Research indicates that couples that are unhappy in their relationship often find it difficult to convey positive messages. They may misunderstand each other more without realizing it, and there may be an inconsistency in how open they are with each other within the relationship.
In conclusion it would seem that the key to a healthy relationship is first having similar values, and then maintaining communication. Couples who have been married and divorced report feeling unheard and therefore unhappy in the marriage. Although some problems will always show up in a relationship, many are fundamental and can be avoided by good communication from the beginning.
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